Integrating Our Polarities using the 4 R's: Recognize, Re-frame, Re-own, Re-Cycle

By Jerome Wagner, Ph.D.

When we over-identify or over-idealize certain aspects of our personality, we tend to disavow any opposite attributes. To avoid these unacceptable parts of ourselves, we put them in the basement (our unconscious) where we can forget about them. Instead of being a whole me, we become the good me and the bad me, like Jeckle and Hyde. If we can re-cognize, re-frame, and re-own our unseemly parts, we might find some valuable assets tossed out with our garbage, and re-cycle them. We will gain an inner integration and wholesome connections with other people, both of which lead to an increase of energy since we are no longer divided against ourselves and others.

Enneagram Styles And Cyclical Psychodynamics

By Jerome Wagner, Ph.D.

Each Enneagram style has its spots – sweet spots, blind spots, hot spots, and desired spots.
  • The sweet spot is what each style sees clearly, the intuitive edge, the values and visions that we move towards.
  • The blind spot is what we avoid.  Our shadow.    This is what we move away from.
  • The hot spot represents those sensitivities and vulnerabilities that we experienced early on in our life that hurt us, embarrassed us, terrorized us, made us angry, etc.  These are the early wounding’s that we move against when they make us angry or move away from when they make us afraid, or sometimes move towards to make friends with our enemy.
  • The desired spot is what we really want and value, our genuine needs and aspirations.  This is our actualizing self.

Enneagram Styles And The Cognitive Theory Of George Kelly

By Jerome Wagner, Ph.D.

George Kelly (1963) has been called the father of cognitive psychotherapy.  Kelly’s metaphor is we are all junior scientists trying to figure out our world so we can predict and control our environment and the reactions our behavior will elicit from the environment (mostly our social environment.)  We look for repetitions around us and then formulate constructs or representations to map our world.  The mind looks for order and then imposes that order in the form of templates on our experiences and the world. Like scientists we develop theories and hypotheses that will help predict future events, thus reducing uncertainty.